In theory, there is no limit to the number of sexual
positions, however most of them are variations on a few key positions. A man
need not master all of them to lead a content sexlife, yet some creativity
stimulated by the knowledge provided here will play an important role for
keeping his relationship happy.
The more physically challenging positions will not
appeal to many couples, yet many of them are much easier in practice than
they appear in the illustrations and descriptions. Although, mere complexity
of a position most of the time has nothing to do with the level of sexual
satisfaction, I encourage the male reader to try out some of them, for no
woman can resist to the element of surprise and trying out new things.
The best-known sexual positions are man-on-top,
woman-on-top, side-by-side, and rear-entry. The less common sexual positions
include sitting positions, standing positions and some simple exotic
postions. In addition, here you will find a description of some Tao
positions and several little-known exotic postions, and, yes, some fun
postions as well. Couples have to remember that high comfort level is one of
the main preconditions for quality sexual fulfillment. Thus, be realistic
and do what you can enjoy in comfort. You will most likely end up being
exhausted and strained by trying to act as sexual superhumans.
Missionary
positions
The man-on-top position is the most common form of
lovemaking of the human kind. In the so-called missionary position a woman
lies on her back with her legs spread. Either the man or the woman can guide
the penis into the vagina.
The man can lie flat on the woman, but in most
instances she will find it uncomfortable although may not say it. A woman
can find that if a man lies flat on her, his weight restricts her pelvic
movements. Therefore a better lover would support some or all of his weight
on the elbows, hands or knees.
Most couples will find man-on-top appealing because it
is the face-to-face love position and one of the few positions which allows
for such close eye contact. It enables couples to do sweet talk (dirty talk
if some prefer) and kissing, although it may depend on the length difference
between partners.
Man-on-top position feels natural both for a man and a
woman, although most men do not realize the weight they are placing on a
woman. A man can ask her to lie down on him in as if in a missionary
position during some foreplay to get a better understanding how the weight
feels for a woman.
In a variation of this position a woman can wrap her
legs around the man's hips or back, or draw her feet up towards her chest. A
man can elevate one or both of her legs or allow her to put them up over his
shoulders. Whenever her legs are raised upwards the penetration becomes very
deep. Although most women do not protest the deep penetration this position
enables, a man should be quite gentle in such a position and look after his
partner's comfort.
Active and, yes, aggressive thrusting in a man-on-top
position will move a woman's body around a lot, therefore this position is
recommended on soft and comfortable surfaces. The woman is very vulnerable
if her legs are highly elevated.
Most women will find it a very pleasing experience if
her bottom is raised in a man-on-top position, because then his penis
stimulates her front wall of vagina where a g-spot is located if the
penetration is deep enough. Couples can always think about making little
changes to the angle of penetration, because it allows with some creativity
to discover whole new amplitude of feelings, especially, for her.
Couples where a man has a shorter penis will find
man-on-top positions with her legs thrown back as far as possible highly
enjoyable. A woman can lie on her back and bring her knee right up toward
his chin, so that when he penetrates her, her feet are at each side of his
head. This position is generally recommended for really supple women, who
are not prone to back problems and the man should be very careful.
The man-on-top position somewhat limits the ways a man
can use his hands to caress his partner, but the woman can use her hands
freely to caress the man or stimulate her clitoris. It is a very good
position for seeing each other and kissing during intercourse.
Woman-on-top
positions
For the woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back
and the woman lowers herself onto his erect penis. Either the man or the
woman may guide the penis into the vagina. Couples can arrive at most
woman-on-top positions by rolling over from a man-on-top or side-by-side
position.
The woman can be on her knees facing the man. This
straightforward woman-on-top position is great for deep thrusting, yet the
woman can regulate the depth of penetration of the penis and the frequency
of thrusting. A variation of this theme, sometimes called "The horse of
Hector", is a woman-on-top-position with her knees placed each side of him.
For this position the man raises knees for her support, and the woman sits
up and then leans back using the knees as a support. This position involves
a deep penetration.
The woman can straighten her legs, and lean back
supporting her body weight with hands. A variation of this theme is called
"The lyons stagecoach". In this position she sits on his penis with her legs
toward his shoulders while leaning back on her hands. In a more complex
variation the woman can put her legs over his shoulder thus achieving a
different angle of penetration.
One of the most affectionate positions is when a woman
lies prone on top of a man using her entire body to show her love with every
inch of skin, pours and sensation. Using her hands, lips, hair, and breasts
is extremely sensational for the man, because his whole body not only
genital area is being stimulated. This position is very good at initial
stage of lovemaking, because few other positions induce such a great body
arousal.
The woman can also turn around and face her partner's
feet. A woman can sit upright ("Upright from behind") or both partners can
lean back, a man laying down and a woman leaning back on hands ("Riding a
cock horse"). In an upright position she can easily reach down and gently
play with his testicles, but be careful they don't like much squeezing. In a
leaning back position a man can easily access a woman's clitoris for
additional pleasing stimulation for her. The woman is in control in
woman-on-top positions, which makes them most different from any other
sexual positions. Some men will enjoy it tremendously, while others will not
feel confident about giving up control. When the rhythm of lovemaking is
controlled by a woman, she is likely to tease a man for above all most women
love to play. A woman can make her partner make even more submissive by
holding down his hands.
In most woman-on-top positions her clit is very aroused
as it is indirectly stimulated by the penis. She will find it very teasing
and full of sensation, and some women tend to reach orgasm more easily when
they are on top. Couples can move their hands more freely in most
woman-on-top positions as compared to other ones. High visual exposure of
your partner's body accompanied by talk about one's sexual desires is highly
arousing for both partners.
Couples have to be aware that penetration is very deep
in this position, although it can be regulated the depth by limiting how far
down they lower themselves. In a woman-on-top position, penis may slip out
of the vagina, which couples can find frustrating. As compared to other
positions most woman-on-top positions require slower movements, as it is not
straightforward to find a position which allows for fast rhythm and good
comfort.
Some women will experience that their vagina tends to
dry up in a woman-on-top position, because it is harder for her to relax and
release the tension, which is put upon by the demand from her to be active.
The second reason for this is that fluids naturally tend to run out of her
vagina. For the same reason woman-on-top position is less recommended for a
woman trying to get pregnant because the man's semen also runs out of her
vagina.
Woman-on-top is a good position if one or both partners
have large bellies, also due to pregnancy of a woman, because it allows for
comfortable intercourse without the stomachs getting in the way.
Rear entry
It's no secret, most men are most aroused about rear
entry intercourse which allegedly and in most cases truly makes him the
dominant partner. Rear entry is the most aggressive position and the
stereotype invites partners for deep penetration and energetic thrusting.
Rear entry sex is when his penis enters her vagina, when she has her back to
him. Rear entry intercourse can be made in numerous ways most of which are
described below.
"Doggie" position is the most famous rear entry
position. The woman should lie on her hands and knees, rising her upturned
vagina invitingly. He kneels down and enters her from behind. She should
rest her weight on the arms, preferably leaning them on soft and little
raised surface, such as pillows. She will find this position rather
comfortable, if he will hold her tightly, but try not to place all of his
weight on her.
In the doggy position the man can control the depth,
speed and frequency of penetration most easily. The man can put his legs
between her legs or outside her legs depending on the preferences. The wider
her legs the easier the penetration. By each thrust he stimulates her pelvis
and buttocks. With hard and deep pushing he rather slaps her buttocks than
caresses, but then again it depends on the couple's preferences.
In a "Lap sitting" position the man sits down on an
even surface, and the woman lowers herself onto his penis. He can use his
hands to support her weight and she can support herself with her arms as
well. In this position the man can set the rhythm if he can lift her
comfortably, otherwise she controls the frequency and depth of penetration.
"The dragon turns" position allows the maximum possible
penetration. In this position she lies on her back and lifts her legs, which
are kept together. The man sits on his knees and enters her vagina both
partners facing each other. He should support her elevated legs with his
hands. For easier penetration it is suggested that she initially spread out
her legs. He should be very gentle to her in this position for deep
penetration may cause discomfort to many women. "Pick up the soap" position
is done with the woman standing but bending over and supporting herself, and
the man standing and entering her vagina from behind. Many men find this
position extremely aggressive and enjoyable, yet its ease depends on the
relative size of both partners.
Many women reach orgasm easily in a rear entry
position, when both partners lie on their sides, her back to his front. A
man should lift his body up on one elbow and, thus, have a perfect access
for stimulating her clitoris and breast with the other free hand while
thrusting. At the same time both partners can look at each other, and there
is no weight pressure on either partner.
In most rear entry positions his hands are free to
caress her and, especially, her clitoris. It is more difficult for her to
caress the man, but well men are much less sensitive to such a need. A
better lover should know that in most rear-entry positions the penis
entering from behind gives very little stimulation to her clitoris,
therefore stimulation with hand will make her sexual satisfaction much more
complete.
Side-by-side
positions
In the side-by-side position partners have sex lying on
their sides usually facing each other, but other alternatives are possible.
Couples usually do not start off in this position, because it is less
convenient for a man to penetrate woman in the side-by-side position.
Couples can arrive at this position by rolling over from man or woman on
top. Side-by-side position is considered to be one of the most restful ones,
when lovemaking is gentle and slow. Either deep or energetic thrusting is
quite difficult when a couple is side by side and many young couples do not
like the side-by-side position for that reason.
At the same time, none of the partners have to bear the
other's weight in this position, and a couple can achieve a very sensuous
close body contact. It is possible to use thigh friction to give the penis
and vagina extra stimulation, and the partners' hands are free to caress
each other's back and genitals. A face-to-face variation of this position
allows a couple to kiss.
In a "Spoon" position a couple lies face-to-face and
neither partner's legs are spread out. This position won't allow you for
very much activity, thus you can relax and enjoy each other's closeness
lovingly caressing each other's back. You can arrive at the "Scissors"
position most easily from a man-on-top position by simply rolling to your
side. In this position partners face each other and the woman's legs are
spread out and wrapped around the partner. In this position the woman's leg
which is beneath the man will feel his body weight, which he should realize
and therefore do not stay in this position for too long.
Another variation of the side-by-side position called
"Upper scissors" is the same face-to-face position, but the woman has her
one leg between his and the other wrapped around his back. This position
allows the couple to vary the depth of penetration and there will be less
body pressure on her. He will find this position enjoyable because it
reminds rear entry position a bit. In side-by-side positions both partners
can reposition legs quite often, thus altering the angle and depth of
penetration.
In "Reverse scissors" the man wraps his leg around a
woman. This position would allow you only very shallow penetration, but can
be fun just for changing roles.
One of the most caressing and sensuous positions is a
rear entry side-by-side position, when both partners lie on their sides and
the man penetrates the woman from behind wrapping her body around with his
body. This position is extremely comfortable and intimate, yet none of the
partners will be strained by the body weight. She will find herself very
protected and safe in this position. However, it is perfect only for slow
lovemaking, so be gentle.
Although the man won't be able to make comfortable fast
thrusting in most side-by-side positions, he will be able to control the
depth and frequency of thrusting easily, because he is supported on one
side. A better lover has to remember that a woman loves to play and to be
played with, which makes such side-by-side positions ideal for a little
play. And play with her whole body - back, buttocks, clit, arms, breast,
lips and neck.
Be careful to avoid fast and shallow thrusting in the
side-by-side position, which most women will find rather funny. There are
other positions around for energetic thrusting, the side-by-side positions
are meant for gentle and relaxing lovemaking.
All in all, side-by-side position is very good for slow
and gentle lovemaking, for people who need to avoid strenuous activity or
are simply tired and want to relax. It is also a good position during
pregnancy because the woman's belly gets in the way less than in the
man-on-top position.
Sitting positions
Sitting positions all in all are variations of the five
basic positions described above, although rear entry is the most common
type.
In "Leaning apart" position the man sits down and leans
back on his hands. His legs are slightly spread out. The woman then sits on
his penis facing him her legs being spread out past his body. She also leans
back and supports her weight with hands. Such a position allows the partners
to move quite easily, although the woman dominates the rhythm in this
position.
"Sitting astride" is a position when he sits down and
she sits in his lap on his penis facing him and hugs him with her whole
body. The movements of both partners in this position are very limited, and
none of the partners is likely to reach orgasm in such a manner. This is a
hugging position, which allows showing your affection for your beloved
person.
Standing positions
Standing positions are among the most aggressive sexual
positions for men usually do not last very long in them, but highly enjoy
them. The most common standing position is rear entry position with woman
leaning forward and supporting herself with hands on some fixed object. The
ease of the position depends on the relative height difference of the
partners, the woman may have to wear high heels or the man may have to find
some height-increasing base. The secret of this position is that both
partners have to find a convenient position so that both feel comfortable
and do not tense, for example, due to standing on one's toes.
Face-to-face standing position is generally not
recommended, for the penetration angle of penis is very low.